12 Blogs under the Christmas tree #7
31 December 2016, by We Are Family
As I take stock as the year closes and assess where we are as a family, I feel acutely aware and quite sad about one very particular thing. I can see both our children have made big strides this year in terms of learning new skills - from "school stuff" like vocabulary, reading, writing and (possibly!) arithmetic to their chosen creative and sporting pursuits. But emotionally I feel, for our son, his reality has evolved very little.
I have to wonder whether - despite feeling overtrained, being professionally supported and having a small library of (albeit partly read) books - we are missing a trick in terms of how we are approaching this adoptive parenting thing - emotional wellbeing is paramount, but skills development in our case seems so much easier to achieve. And in the turbulence of our daily life, achieving some progress feels essential for our own sanity. Perhaps we are not allowing enough emotional space, but with space tends to come volatility, so we keep our time as filled and structured as possible. There lies the circle? Some food for thought in our home over the holidays...
Hence... If we could put one thing under the Christmas tree, it would be a superpower that enables us to access our son's subconscious - so that we can pinpoint the emotional drivers of his behaviour and perhaps palpably help him to heal and move forward.
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