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My sons smell.

24 March 2017, by We Are Family

My sons smell. - Photo 3 2
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I am sorry to disappoint anybody who thinks this blog will be about teenage boys and their personal hygiene habits - or rather the lack of.

My sons are still only 7 and 8 years old and 'that' blog is hopefully still a few years away. Thankfully they are so far not showing any signs of being 'allergic' to soap and water, in fact quite the opposite as they really seem to enjoy their nightly shower and are evidently pleased to emerge from it smelling of some weird and exotic aroma that is current 'en trend' in the shampoo and shower gel industry. 

In fact it's one of my favourite things to sit down with them all showered and in their pyjamas for our nightly read together, all three of us huddled together with the odd whiff of coconut, honey, lime, Bamboo Milk... Amazonian pigmy chestnut marinated in Himalayan sesame syrup.

But this blog isn't even about the multitude of artificial smells created to make us part with our money, this blog is about their natural smell.

Yes, they smell.

As a new parent this really surprised me and I can't help feeling that the surprise was all to do with being an adoptive parent. I now assume that all children must smell and that it is something that I was totally unaware of - or am I misguided and should I be rushing my boys off to a specialist to have them de aroma'd?  

I am also assuming that babies and children must carry the smell of their birth parents and consequently the smell goes unnoticed, at least on a conscious level. However to an adoptive parent the smell is new and alien and I will be honest, at times when particularly pungent not all that pleasant and it can take you by surprise.

It is only really noticeable in the early mornings when they are fresh out of bed, having been cocooned under the warm bedding I guess the smell has accumulated and intensified. It is not sweat as that would need to be washed away and this smell simply leaves their body (or no doubt it dulls down and is unnoticeable) as they wind up for the day.

Yes it is certainly a touch of 'morning breath' , but the intensity of that clears before they have brushed their teeth too which suggests that it is most definitely not just the regular bad breath we adults wake up with - and inflict on our partners daily.

It is a smell from within and it seems to literally seep from their pores.

I think that maybe we underestimate the importance of smell to us humans and that in fact we are more in tune with this sense than we are aware.

I know that before adopted babies are moved in with a new forever family, the new parents are asked to sleep with a cuddly toy so that the toy takes on their odour, it is then placed in the crib at the foster home, familiarising the baby to its new parents in advance. The theory being that there is then a connection that will comfort the baby in otherwise totally new and alien surroundings.

That's quite powerful stuff when you think about it and yet so totally obvious too. 

We spend so much effort - and indeed money - trying to erase or mask our natural smell that I think perhaps it has misguided us about its importance, maybe we need to use less manufactured odours and look to embrace the natural which is within us all far more readily. 

Having said that, it has been a long day and I so need to go take a shower, where did I put that Amazonian pigmy chestnut marinated in Himalayan sesame syrup shower gel?

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  • Rocket

    Oh my, yes! I remember being quite horrified by my reaction to my son's smell in the first few months after he came home. Sometimes I would get a whiff that was unpleasant to me (and I don't mean a nasty nappy, as you describe it was scent that was very much a part of him) and I hated myself for not loving his smell. What surprised me almost as much though was that when I introduced him to my best friend (about 3 months in) the first thing she said after a quick hug with him, was that he smelt of me! To my relief, these days I love the smell of him - except when the nappy needs changing, or a bath is urgently needed :)

    I do think that it is something adopters should be warned to expect. We all know about making our scent familiar to the child by sleeping with a blanket for them etc, but I didn't anticipate that every time I breathed in I would get such a stark reminder that he was a stranger to me.

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