237 posts in this category
15 June 2018, by We Are Family
We get it!
We not only understand the benefits of therapeutic parenting, but we now have plenty of first hand experience of it working, of it regulating our son with Reactive attachment disorder in a way that ‘normal’ parenting simple does not.
08 June 2018, by We Are Family
Honey Cake! - It all began with Winnie the Pooh.
We have recently gone through a phase of making and eating a lot (almost too much) honey cake. Some weeks we have made one every single day and it all began way back with Winnie the Pooh.
01 June 2018, by We Are Family
Bounce Back Blog: Equally Best
...." The notion that the father trumped everything simply because of ‘blood’ made me feel vulnerable and I confess fleetingly made me consider if my new role as a father could ever be quite as significant without that blood tie...
25 May 2018, by We Are Family
So for those of us attempting to support our children who come with a range of trauma and problematic starts in life; we spend a considerable amount of time observing - thinking about and trying to work with their coping mechanisms...
18 May 2018, by We Are Family
All Was Good.
My siblings and I grew up being told by many around us what good parents we had and I guess we have always accepted that at face value...
11 May 2018, by We Are Family
Terminology that comes easy
I admit that I am an older mum, but my brain hasn't gone to mush. I am not stupid, in fact I am quite clever - so why does the playground expectation and language floor me every time?
04 May 2018, by We Are Family
'I thought these are your real parents, no?'
'So you are not real brother and sister then?'
I guess most adopters have experienced questions such as these being asked of us or our children at some point. It's frustrating to say the least and at worse it can feel insulting and indeed be quite painful, even so I am surprised at some adopters reaction to it.
27 April 2018, by We Are Family
I left my nearly 10 year old daughter at home, on her own, for the first time last week.
I knew she was tired and that a 10 minute walk to collect her sister from a local playdate would be met with moaning and groaning, so I gave her the option of staying at home whilst I popped out...
20 April 2018, by We Are Family
I Hate You.
I was at a meeting with non adoptive parents and somebody brought up the fact that their child had screamed ‘I hate you' at them the day before and how hurt she had been by this, almost all of the other parents said that they had experienced the same and the group went on to discuss how difficult it is to hear and how hurt they had been.
Both our sons have indeed declared their hate for us in fits of anger - as well as the possibly more dramatic ‘you are not my parents anyway’, but neither my partner or I had been hurt or upset.
13 April 2018, by We Are Family
Parenting is hard work.
I underestimated how hard parenting is.
I love my child dearly and parenting him has turned out to be both more wonderful and more rewarding than I could have ever imagined but also much much harder than I ever thought.
It's hard, testing work and it's difficult to navigate.