12 March 2015, by We Are Family
We were recently invited to a party by our sons Foster Mother of almost three years, for her husbands birthday. It was a surprise party with family and friends and a good opportunity for the boys to see - who they call - 'Nanny and Grandad' outside the twice yearly contact that is arranged through social services.
06 March 2015, by We Are Family
No child is perfect and my partner and I reassure ourselves of that every time we have a particularly bad day. Our sons are good boys - on the whole, but truth is not a day goes by when we are not reprimanding both of them pretty much throughout the day.
27 February 2015, by We Are Family
From the first day I met our child, I loved them and that love has grown with each day that has passed. Until last week. From out of nowhere, I felt utterly disconnected from them and it freaked me out completely. It made me cry. I never expected to feel anything like that.
20 February 2015, by We Are Family
It seems obvious that for the vast majority there is quite simply an inevitability that you will one day become a parent and indeed a social expectation that will be so right from the very beginning - even those young adults who buck the trend and do not consider themselves all that child focussed may soon find themselves in a relationship where parenting is the next logical step or around their peers who are establishing families which opens up the possibility of the same for them.
When on that path and the unthinkable happens and a natural pregnancy is not possible and medical intervention fails too, adoption becomes an obvious consideration and hopefully a solution.
13 February 2015, by We Are Family
Q) Why did you choose adoption, and why international?
A) When I was heavily pregnant with my son and slobbed on the sofa one evening, I accidentally caught a programme on the TV about Chinese orphanages that cared for children given up as a result of the one child policy. There and then I said to myself, I am not going to create my second child from scratch. I am going to adopt one of those children. I never ever let go of that feeling and determination. I have sometimes wondered if it was because I was flooded with ‘maternal’ pregnancy hormones at the time I watched it!
06 February 2015, by We Are Family
Apart from the beautiful early blooming daffodils, I have another big reason to be cheerful this week - the confirmation that our son has just been accepted into the school of our choice. A school where I am pretty certain he is going to be happy, inspired, challenged, educated and stimulated, and which he is certainly ready for.
30 January 2015, by We Are Family
We are sitting having dinner and both our sons are excited because a friend from school is with us, conversation jumps around and one of them makes reference to 'Mummy' at which point the friend says 'you have two Dad's because your mummy is dead', 'no she isn't they reply in unison' and then go on to give two slightly different explanations as to her whereabouts.
23 January 2015, by We Are Family
My partner and I discussed adopting fairly early on in our relationship and talked about how much we would like to do it. We are not religious but I guess we suffer from that middle class, privileged background angst that can drive you in a similar direction. Our adoption assessment was straightforward (our lives were labelled ‘perfect’) and we were matched quickly with our darling boy who was 1 at the time.
16 January 2015, by We Are Family
That all-important conversation that resulted in our stopping the use of contraception. Our wonderfully spontaneous and abandoned sex life which gradually, gradually morphed into something organised, timed and goal-oriented !
05 January 2015, by We Are Family
PHEWee. It’s over. One by one we take the decorations down and pack them carefully into boxes that will be lifted into the loft not to be seen for the rest of the year. The cobwebs of Christmas are being swept away and the house will feel brighter, cleaner and airy again. Normal life can be resumed.