135 posts in this category
05 January 2018, by We Are Family
Better Off With Straight Parents
....We were somewhat surprised and we had a number of questions, not least of which was why she felt she needed to be in a straight relationship to have children, we were even more surprised when the answer was that her therapist had said raising children in straight relationships was of course better than raising them in gay ones.
24 November 2017, by We Are Family
‘What ever makes you think your son is securely attached?'
‘What ever makes you think your son is securely attached?' The kind therapist said.
I was puzzled.
‘Erm. I’m his mum and he reaches straight for me if he is upset...?! ...: Erm ... dunno. We are very close. We have a strong bond... I think... I just know.’
‘Ok. How long has he been with you?’
‘I’d be very surprised if he was securely attached. Most adopted kids are insecurely attached.’
10 November 2017, by We Are Family
Feeling a Fraud
In retrospect it's easy to see that it was probably just self doubt, but at the time it felt like something so much bigger, something so much more significant.
03 November 2017, by We Are Family
Reassurance, reassurance, reassurance.
‘That’s the name of the game in the early days. Reassurance.’ said the social worker on the phone. ‘Just reassure him that everything will be ok. As much a you possibly can.’
20 October 2017, by We Are Family
Our big adoption friendly / attachment aware school choice gamble.
Almost three years ago, we met our fabulous children and started family life together. While in the throes of building a family relationship and surviving instant parenting of a 1 & 3 year old, we were pressured by our children's social worker to select and apply for our daughters school place fairly early into our placement. Under time pressure, not knowing many local families with school aged children and being fairly emotionally exhausted, I will admit to doing fairly limited local research… visiting one school...
13 October 2017, by We Are Family
It’s been one week since my son was diagnosed at St Thomas’ with ASD (Autism), ADHD, ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and major emotional regulation difficulties. He was diagnosed by a panel consisting of a Paediatrician, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, Speech and Language Therapist and Occupational Therapist who spent 3 hours assessing him. They were thorough, professional and understanding.
22 September 2017, by We Are Family
Reawakening - Tiara 2
When booking a recent holiday to DisneyWorld, my partner searched online for recommendations of essential things to do, and regardless of how inappropriate I felt it would be for our family he duly booked 'Dinner with the Disney Princesses'.
15 September 2017, by We Are Family
Daddies are bad.
Daddies are bad because they say the mushroom pool is closed for swimming because they want to go the heated warm one instead.
08 September 2017, by We Are Family
My Summer of WAF
I want to thank We Are Family for building such an incredibly supportive network of adoptive parents because I am blown away by the families I now have in my life.
21 July 2017, by We Are Family
My mother lived to just 62, far too young of course and her death seemed illogical and unjust at the time. However, just how young she was is only now starting to sink in - more than 16 years later.