Becoming a family
134 posts in this category
16 February 2018, by We Are Family
A greasy winter’s day a couple of years ago I was walking down the street, as you do, pushing a newly arrived Jack in his buggy and my goddaughter by my side. My little brand new family and hers were heading off for some half term shenanigans.
02 February 2018, by We Are Family
Being the birth mum it seems that people simply put all the blame on your daughter, even the birth dad gets overlooked by most - regardless of the obvious fact that he failed our sons just as much as a parent.
05 January 2018, by We Are Family
....We were somewhat surprised and we had a number of questions, not least of which was why she felt she needed to be in a straight relationship to have children, we were even more surprised when the answer was that her therapist had said raising children in straight relationships was of course better than raising them in gay ones.
08 December 2017, by We Are Family
...The envelope had come from the local authority so I assumed (wrongly) that it was the long overdue contact letter from birth mum but out tumbled all these pictures of a beautiful teenage girl who looked remarkably like my own daughter – but older.
24 November 2017, by We Are Family
‘What ever makes you think your son is securely attached?' The kind therapist said.
I was puzzled.
‘Erm. I’m his mum and he reaches straight for me if he is upset...?! ...: Erm ... dunno. We are very close. We have a strong bond... I think... I just know.’
‘Ok. How long has he been with you?’
‘I’d be very surprised if he was securely attached. Most adopted kids are insecurely attached.’
10 November 2017, by We Are Family
In retrospect it's easy to see that it was probably just self doubt, but at the time it felt like something so much bigger, something so much more significant.
03 November 2017, by We Are Family
‘That’s the name of the game in the early days. Reassurance.’ said the social worker on the phone. ‘Just reassure him that everything will be ok. As much a you possibly can.’
07 October 2017, by We Are Family
We have been given somebody else's child!
That fact is astonishing.
We have been given what has to be the most valuable gift one could ever receive, the gift of a human being - a life.
02 June 2017, by We Are Family
...I don’t have any answers. It just hurts. And I pray that the projections are very, very wrong.
12 May 2017, by We Are Family
Four years ago today you arrived in our home twinkly and tiny and so brave under the circumstances... Or did we misread that? In retrospect you must have been flooded with fear...