14 October 2016, by We Are Family
I have written previously about the pressure that adoption puts on relationships and how the need to focus on the child/children so singularly can create problems in even the healthiest of partnerships and of course it is at the exact time that we need to be most united and strongest as a couple.
29 September 2016, by We Are Family
We were told that it was going to be tough on our relationship, that it would add stress and could highlight issues that maybe we were unaware even existed and that most certainly it would bring any festering issues to the surface and make us confront them head on. We were warned that adopting - particularly adopting more than one child - could indeed destroy less well established, less secure relationships.
And thank goodness our relationship is so strong, because they were right
09 September 2016, by We Are Family
When did I finally become a mum?
Most mums know the day, the hour, the minute, maybe even the second.
Can I pin down the day, the month, even the year?
22 August 2016, by We Are Family
I'll admit, love, that I’ve always found ‘the baby game’ irritating. The game you most often ask me to play with you, usually at the most inconvenient times. A game I didn’t really understand, or the fascination it held for you. At 10-years old, and nearly as tall as me, you’d want to be a helpless, mewling, wriggling little thing, while your adopted sister, although five years younger, was assigned the ‘teenage babysitter’ role or, if she protested too much, a twin baby to you, but one that was ‘smart’, and could ‘do more’ – the one that didn’t need so much attention.
13 August 2016, by We Are Family
I know that you do spend a fair amount of time in the car being shuttled around and you don't make much of a fuss about it, and there's not always that much to look at; but I'd like you to know - in the kindest possible way - that it is not necessary to remind me on each and every journey, that as I drive over speed bumps, holes in the road, etc, that the skin on my arms and legs "wobbles about like a jelly".
10 August 2016, by We Are Family
... before you walk into a room it is always less sunny than it becomes when you arrive.
07 August 2016, by We Are Family
I can only guess what a huge upheaval it is going to be for you, to move from what you know as your family home with T, O and the kids.
15 July 2016, by We Are Family
Five years old, the books tell me, is an age when my daughter is not going to be that interested in her life history and experience tells me that’s true. But it is also the age when children start noticing the world around me, hence the various conversations I have had in recent months around the theme of “my child was asking why your daughter doesn’t have a daddy. What should I tell them?”
01 July 2016, by We Are Family
It's your birthday, it's your birthday.
Last year we didn't see you.
But we thought of you so much.
All day, every hour.
20 June 2016, by We Are Family
I'm writing a letter to you to be read when you're a little older.
I'm writing it now before I forget all of the emotions and events that whirl past me at a hundred miles an hour as I attempt to mother you to the best of my abilities