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Becoming a family

Change.

By Becoming a family, Trauma, We are Family No Comments

We sense a change.  

A small change, but a real change and – fingers crossed – a fundamental change. Although of course we could be wrong – we certainly have been before….

We think we are seeing signs that our younger son’s anger and the screaming and shouting that are a consequence of that anger are being controlled. They are still there, still part of our lives, but it’s somehow feeling different.  There now seems to be a desire from him that was clearly not there before, a desire to bring our ‘battles’ to an end. It’s clearly a struggle, but a struggle that maybe he is winning. Slowly, gradually he seems to be taking control. 

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​‘What ever makes you think your son is securely attached?’

By Attachment, Becoming a family, Family, Post adoption support No Comments

‘What ever makes you think your son is securely attached?’ The kind therapist said. 

I was puzzled.

‘Erm. I’m his mum and he reaches straight for me if he is upset…?! …: Erm … dunno. We are very close. We have a strong bond… I think… I just know.’

‘Ok. How long has he been with you?’

‘Three years.’

‘I’d be very surprised if he was securely attached. Most adopted kids are insecurely attached.’

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