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Becoming a family

A Simple Equation

By Becoming a family, Placement, Siblings, Trauma, We are Family No Comments

For a large part of the time our son has been with us we have been waiting – and worse still expecting – for there to be a very obvious and significant improvement in his behaviour, waiting for the signs that he had indeed settled and that he had let go of his hurt and anguish and that he had embraced the love and more importantly the security he now had in our family.

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He is not my friend.

By Attachment, Becoming a family, Parenting, We are Family No Comments

A pet peeve of mine is children and parents describing their relationship as a ‘friendship’. 

Personally I feel that getting on with your child, having a wonderfully close relationship, sharing certain interests, being able to open up and share your feelings with them and encourage them to share theirs with you is not friendship – it is just good parenting.

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12 Blogs under the Christmas tree #8

By Becoming a family, Birth family, Christmas, Family, Fostering, Life story, We are Family No Comments

It’s the first Christmas we have officially been a family of 4. Last year we had a court date in December that we had hoped would finalise the adoption, but a tiny overlooked detail meant that the judge deferred the decision until January. It wasn’t what we had hoped for, but he was still with us and as far as we were concerned he was one of us. It just wasn’t official yet.

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