A We Are Family member shares their experience of hoping to adopt their son’s sibling, and their sense of loss when it didn’t come to be.
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The fourth in a series of blogs shared by a We Are Family member from their own blog ‘Riding Waves with Angel’
A We Are Family member shares the positives of early permanence fostering and mother and baby placements, and ultimately how they came to adopt their son.
The third in a series of blogs generously shared by a We Are Family member and author of their own blog ‘Riding Waves with Angel’ where you can find this post and others…
A We Are Family member shares a candid and heartfelt reflection on meeting her son’s birth mother recently.
The first contact package we received did not go down well with our son, who was very little at the time. It contained a book his birth mum had made about herself. It was very emotional and, whilst it was her truth, was too dysregulating for a young child.
….” The notion that the father trumped everything simply because of ‘blood’ made me feel vulnerable and I confess fleetingly made me consider if my new role as a father could ever be quite as significant without that blood tie…
‘I thought these are your real parents, no?’
‘So you are not real brother and sister then?’
I guess most adopters have experienced questions such as these being asked of us or our children at some point. It’s frustrating to say the least and at worse it can feel insulting and indeed be quite painful, even so I am surprised at some adopters reaction to it.
….I’d share some of the books that have helped our family along the way as we wrestled with tangled feelings and attachments, not adoption books per se, just beautiful stories. So, this is not exactly a review, not exactly a blog, just some thoughts on the healing power of story.
