A We Are Family member shares their thoughts about talking about adoption, contact, and birth families with their child.
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A We Are Family member shares a candid and heartfelt reflection on meeting her son’s birth mother recently.
The second in a series of blogs by a We Are Family member and author of her own blog ‘Riding Waves with Angel’, that navigates the big feelings and difficult questions when raising an adopted child.
Last night my daughter awoke just as we were going to bed. She staggered into our room, disorientated, on the verge of tears. She looked as if she was struggling to get out of her own skin, twitchy movements, evident discomfort, flinching when touched.
The first contact package we received did not go down well with our son, who was very little at the time. It contained a book his birth mum had made about herself. It was very emotional and, whilst it was her truth, was too dysregulating for a young child.
Yearly letter box contact has been agreed and we diligently get the boys to write Christmas cards for birth Mummy and Daddy – regardless of indifference from our oldest and huge resistance from his younger brother – in addition we put pen to paper and write a letter updating them on the boys past year.
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Yearly letter box contact has been agreed and we diligently get the boys to write Christmas cards for birth Mummy and Daddy – regardless of indifference from our oldest and huge resistance from his younger brother – in addition we put pen to paper and write a letter updating them on the boys past year.
We adopted two brothers who we knew to be part of a sibling group of 5.
We were later to discover that in fact there was an additional, older half sister (paternal), as she lived with her mother she had nothing to do with social services or indeed us.
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I am a birth mom and I can’t say that I agree that its “always adoptive families” that “action, chase, fight for the best outcome of the child”. The agency I went through has done a lot to help and has a strong desire to help in whatever way they can for all three parties involved. Also, I have reached out, expressed feelings, respected the wishes of the adoptive parents and I have been rejected. It is true that every family is different. I have so much respect for you and other families that try to maintain contact with birth parents for the benefit of your child.”
