…I don’t have any answers. It just hurts. And I pray that the projections are very, very wrong.
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Four years ago today you arrived in our home twinkly and tiny and so brave under the circumstances… Or did we misread that? In retrospect you must have been flooded with fear…
I have to resolve this.
I need to move through it.
I can’t go under it.
I can’t get over it.
I need to go through it.
When I look at our sons –
I see confusion over the disruptions in their lives and the difficult heart wrenching changes they have endured.
I see hurt and anger for what they have suffered.
I see the lack of self worth that has resulted and I see a lack of trust in the adults around them.
Under the Christmas tree this year is a new family! Let me explain. As a gay man family has always been a challenge. However, I would like to think I navigated it quite well, until I adopted….
It’s the first Christmas we have officially been a family of 4. Last year we had a court date in December that we had hoped would finalise the adoption, but a tiny overlooked detail meant that the judge deferred the decision until January. It wasn’t what we had hoped for, but he was still with us and as far as we were concerned he was one of us. It just wasn’t official yet.
Easy – the whole of my New Zealand family. My big brother, my lovely sister in law, their three children, and their dog.
Dear makers of Inside Out,
I just wanted to write and thank you for what I consider to be one of the best films ever made.
To explain, I have found being an adoptive Mum, at times, an extremely difficult and highly charged emotional experience.
I started a Blog a while ago suggesting that adoptive parents needed to have realistic expectations of their children’s school and especially of the child’s teacher.
Something stopped me completing the blog and now it is evident why that was so… I was wrong! Which sadly in our case has resulted in us failing to protect our son and failing to do right by him.
As part of National Adoption Week I asked for contributions in the form of a list of questions and answers supplied by our children on the subject of us – their parents.
Here are the answers of a 4 1/2 year old.
