15 July 2016, by We Are Family
Five years old, the books tell me, is an age when my daughter is not going to be that interested in her life history and experience tells me that’s true. But it is also the age when children start noticing the world around me, hence the various conversations I have had in recent months around the theme of “my child was asking why your daughter doesn’t have a daddy. What should I tell them?”
29 April 2016, by We Are Family
This week we stumbled upon a DVD that the boys brought with them when then first arrived that was filmed at a children's play centre. It showed the pair of them sitting in a car seat 'driving' in front of a screen projecting moving cartoon images. We had watched it soon after they first arrived and it is sweet and charming and we thought it a lovely little peep at the younger - yet to be part of our world - them.
However, watching it again now is very different indeed, and what we see are two almost unrecognisable little boys
15 April 2016, by We Are Family
Both our boys on occasions have called my partner and I 'Mum', as we are both men it has surprised us and we have considered it long and hard.
08 April 2016, by We Are Family
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) has far-reaching implications, including the surprising benefits of going through the healing process.
The more I look at my parenting, the more I, and the way I was parented, stand in the way. Looking at the screen and my ACE score there is no other way of looking at it either. I have to look at my own roots. And deep down this really isn't about me.