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They’re Adopted

By Attachment, Becoming a family, Family, Identity, Parenting, Same sex parenting, Siblings, We are Family No Comments

I was at a meeting of fellow adopters and was surprised to hear a parent say how unhappy they were that their child’s school had outed them as being adopted. They were clearly upset and concerned and stated that they had made an official complaint. On a number of occasions since I have heard similar comments and concerns from adopters…

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They f*** you up

By Adoption assessment, Becoming a family, Birth family, Family, Identity, Parenting, Trauma, We are Family No Comments

It’s said that once you become a parent you will get to know someone who you have known all your life but never really known. Your own parents. Usually this is said with tenderness and often forgiveness.

Since I became a mum I have got to know mine better too. Only they don’t come out the better for it. It has stirred up a lot of deep seated resentment and anger.

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