A We Are Family member reflects on dealing with the questioning, curiosity and judgement that families formed through transracial adoption can face.
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A We Are Family member shares their thoughts about talking about adoption, contact, and birth families with their child.
The third in a series of blogs generously shared by a We Are Family member and author of their own blog ‘Riding Waves with Angel’ where you can find this post and others…
The second in a series of blogs by a We Are Family member and author of her own blog ‘Riding Waves with Angel’, that navigates the big feelings and difficult questions when raising an adopted child.
The following blog was written by a We Are Family member and adoptive parent of ‘Angel’. It is taken, with permission, from her own blog Riding Waves with Angel and is the first in a series of blogs we will be sharing by this member.
The 2018 Adoption UK Life Story Work conference opened with a speech from Sue Armstrong-Brown about the difference between the facts of our life versus the narrative. Many of our children are given the facts of their life but are unable to create a meaningful narrative without assistance. This is why life story work can be so important.
Dear Grandparents.
Being the birth mum it seems that people simply put all the blame on your daughter, even the birth dad gets overlooked by most – regardless of the obvious fact that he failed our sons just as much as a parent.
I have to resolve this.
I need to move through it.
I can’t go under it.
I can’t get over it.
I need to go through it.
It’s the first Christmas we have officially been a family of 4. Last year we had a court date in December that we had hoped would finalise the adoption, but a tiny overlooked detail meant that the judge deferred the decision until January. It wasn’t what we had hoped for, but he was still with us and as far as we were concerned he was one of us. It just wasn’t official yet.
