He is not my friend.

By Attachment, Becoming a family, Parenting, We are Family No Comments

A pet peeve of mine is children and parents describing their relationship as a ‘friendship’. 

Personally I feel that getting on with your child, having a wonderfully close relationship, sharing certain interests, being able to open up and share your feelings with them and encourage them to share theirs with you is not friendship – it is just good parenting.

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Smother them with love

By Parenting, Siblings No Comments

Friends said ‘smother them with love’ and all would be OK. 

They have been loved – and often continue to be loved – by their birth parents, yet that love was anything but
enough. Their past is not always about a lack of love, it’s just a love that was overridden by lack of care, lack of consideration or lack of ability.

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