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Thank goodness for the parent group!

By Adoption assessment, Becoming a family, Family, Parenting, Placement, Post adoption support, Siblings, We are Family No Comments

We soon realised – and it was a shocking realisation – that we were in it over our heads. We had listened intently at the prep’ course, read copiously, had scoured the internet, picked the minds of the experienced parents around us; we thought we were prepared. However, can anything truly prepare you for the impact of an adopted child coming into your life? Especially when a child displays the trademark behaviour of a traumatised child?

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The Twelve Blogs of Christmas #11: Memories of Christmases Past

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I have not always been okay with my lack of memory; it used to create an unsettling lack of self. I didn’t know who I was, because I didn’t have the tools to deal with all the bad things in my childhood. And in my respected, academic family it was preferred to sweep it under the carpet and uphold the illusion of a well-functioning family.

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The Twelve Blogs of Christmas #10: The most wonderful time of the year.

By Adoption assessment, Becoming a family, Christmas, Family, Loss, Parenting No Comments

This is tough time of year for some people. Adverts telling us we need to buy this or that for our loved ones; tinsel and Christmas decorations adorn every nook and cranny; Christmas songs stream relentlessly through pipes in every shop and down the high street, telling us it’s the most wonderful time of the year. And for most of…

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The Twelve Blogs of Christmas #4: Christmas Party Games you never played before you had children…

By Becoming a family, Christmas, Family, Holidays, Parenting, Siblings, We are Family No Comments

  Name that stain Being a parent apparently means accruing a large knowledge of cleaning products and how best to combine them. I can’t make a Martini but I sure can combine Vanish, Napisan and bicarbonate of soda to get melted chocolate coins out of the sofa 56 wipe pick-up The rules are self-explanatory here, just insert whichever item you…

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The Twelve Blogs of Christmas #3: Not this year’s festive favourite.

By Attachment, Becoming a family, Christmas, Family, Parenting, We are Family No Comments

I think it’s fair to say I am not this year’s festive favourite! The reason being we have decided to try and have the Christmas we want for ourselves and our children – rather than a (vain) attempt to balance everyone else’s desires with our own. We are seeing all our family, just not on Christmas Day or Boxing Day……

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