42 posts in this category
06 April 2018, by We Are Family
We sense a change.
A small change, but a real change and - fingers crossed - a fundamental change. Although of course we could be wrong - we certainly have been before....
We think we are seeing signs that our younger son's anger and the screaming and shouting that are a consequence of that anger are being controlled. They are still there, still part of our lives, but it's somehow feeling different. There now seems to be a desire from him that was clearly not there before, a desire to bring our 'battles' to an end. It's clearly a struggle, but a struggle that maybe he is winning. Slowly, gradually he seems to be taking control.
02 February 2018, by We Are Family
Being the birth mum it seems that people simply put all the blame on your daughter, even the birth dad gets overlooked by most - regardless of the obvious fact that he failed our sons just as much as a parent.
16 December 2017, by We Are Family
Like many today I am somewhat attached to my smart phone and I have it within reach pretty much constantly. However I was recently away on holiday and just decided that I wanted a day without it so left it behind on a trip to the beach. I didn't miss it at all and in fact I barely gave it a thought throughout the day.
03 November 2017, by We Are Family
‘That’s the name of the game in the early days. Reassurance.’ said the social worker on the phone. ‘Just reassure him that everything will be ok. As much a you possibly can.’
12 May 2017, by We Are Family
Four years ago today you arrived in our home twinkly and tiny and so brave under the circumstances... Or did we misread that? In retrospect you must have been flooded with fear...
05 May 2017, by We Are Family
For a large part of the time our son has been with us we have been waiting - and worse still expecting - for there to be a very obvious and significant improvement in his behaviour, waiting for the signs that he had indeed settled and that he had let go of his hurt and anguish and that he had embraced the love and more importantly the security he now had in our family.
28 April 2017, by We Are Family
I have to resolve this.
I need to move through it.
I can't go under it.
I can't get over it.
I need to go through it.
07 April 2017, by We Are Family
When I look at our sons -
I see confusion over the disruptions in their lives and the difficult heart wrenching changes they have endured.
I see hurt and anger for what they have suffered.
I see the lack of self worth that has resulted and I see a lack of trust in the adults around them.
26 December 2016, by We Are Family
I love this time of year, I love the joy and the twinkle of great things to come.
I see the stars and then I wonder how did I get here? To this place, right now.
I asked my son what he wanted for Christmas and he said a dinosaur that roared! My daughter is not old enough to ask for things so I'm just guessing what she would like.
22 December 2016, by We Are Family
So what exactly is wrong with adoption, then? Let’s look at some of the arguments…