20 May 2016, by We Are Family
I want to ask you a question…
How does it FEEL, to parent a child who is quietly suffering!?
How does it FEEL, to parent a child who is hurting so bad, they flip into high octane expressiveness in a second?
How does it FEEL, to be with your child’s feelings, to be with such raw emotion – overt or covert?
29 April 2016, by We Are Family
This week we stumbled upon a DVD that the boys brought with them when then first arrived that was filmed at a children's play centre. It showed the pair of them sitting in a car seat 'driving' in front of a screen projecting moving cartoon images. We had watched it soon after they first arrived and it is sweet and charming and we thought it a lovely little peep at the younger - yet to be part of our world - them.
However, watching it again now is very different indeed, and what we see are two almost unrecognisable little boys
22 April 2016, by We Are Family
Am I the only one feeling slightly overwhelmed by all the information we are confronted with about our kids and their pasts and potential futures?
At the moment I feel like everywhere I look I’m reminded that life is going to be difficult. - Not that it's perfect for everyone else, but apparently it's going to be much harder for our children.
08 April 2016, by We Are Family
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) has far-reaching implications, including the surprising benefits of going through the healing process.
The more I look at my parenting, the more I, and the way I was parented, stand in the way. Looking at the screen and my ACE score there is no other way of looking at it either. I have to look at my own roots. And deep down this really isn't about me.
25 March 2016, by We Are Family
Hearing that We Are Family and the South London Adoption Consortium were running a presentation on “Why Children Placed From Care Need Support In Schools” was exciting news for me on multiple fronts. As a prospective adopter, I am trying to gather as much information as possible to help me prepare for life as an adoptive parent, but additionally, by day I work as a Deputy Headteacher at a London Primary School, and am always keen to learn more about how I can support vulnerable pupils at school.
So with two hats on, I felt like I was well placed to write a review (or two) of the evening. Thanks to We Are Family for giving me the chance to share my thoughts!
04 January 2016, by We Are Family
I have not always been okay with my lack of memory; it used to create an unsettling lack of self. I didn’t know who I was, because I didn’t have the tools to deal with all the bad things in my childhood. And in my respected, academic family it was preferred to sweep it under the carpet and uphold the illusion of a well-functioning family.
25 September 2015, by We Are Family
I have lost a close friend plus had emergency spinal surgery – narrowly avoiding permanent paralysis of the legs. I should just be relieved and happy to have got through it all but really all I can think is Thank God we’re going on holiday because we’re all about to crash with the stress of the year so far…
04 September 2015, by We Are Family
It's said that once you become a parent you will get to know someone who you have known all your life but never really known. Your own parents. Usually this is said with tenderness and often forgiveness.
Since I became a mum I have got to know mine better too. Only they don't come out the better for it. It has stirred up a lot of deep seated resentment and anger.
03 September 2015, by We Are Family
The simple answer - we were inspired by friends.
01 September 2015, by We Are Family
We wanted to be a family and this was the next step for us.