Most of us get obsessed about going back to work, dusting off the Lycra for a jog or giving up our vices at this time of year. But, for we adopters, it's also worth taking a moment to reflect on the amazing things we've done, and choose resolutions that will make us happier, not just fitter or richer, in 2019.
It was our first Christmas together and we were spending it away from London, in a house in the country. There was great excitement all around: from the boys who we had been filling with expectation for weeks, and from us hoping to make our first Christmas together special and memorable. However, something that we had not considered was the weather - which was, quite simply, horrid.
So the song goes. But I am afraid. Much as I try to fight it off with misty-edged fantasies about my family laughing over a game of charades as we pass round the Quality Street, I fear Christmas a lot. Here is why.
My son started some animal handling therapy two years ago. He loved it so much and it was just wonderful watching his confidence grow as he learned how to handle and care for the animals...Well, we thought! A few months later we brought home our own gorgeous cockapoo pup.
I really don't think people intend to be insensitive, or 'mean' as Munchkin would say. I just believe that people are lazy and don't think! I have countless examples from friends and strangers whose throw-away comments could really hurt if I let them.
The 2018 Adoption UK Life Story Work conference opened with a speech from Sue Armstrong-Brown about the difference between the facts of our life versus the narrative. Many of our children are given the facts of their life but are unable to create a meaningful narrative without assistance. This is why life story work can be so important.
We spend a considerable amount of time thinking about and trying to work with our children's coping mechanisms. What I didn’t give enough consideration to was how I would feel about giving up my own coping mechanisms that, until I was 44, had kept me safe and stable.