usually around 8pm if I don’t set his alarm. He runs in with his ‘by’ his big fleece blanket bundles into bed in between my husband and I and demands the duvet on him. If it is early he will fall back asleep. He is a 12 hour kid sleep wise.
We always had thought about it and liked the idea. Surrogacy wasn’t an option for us.
From start of assessment to bringing your child home how long did the process take?
1 year, very quick, thank goodness
How could it be improved?
Our process was so straight forward and we realise how lucky we are having now met lots of families. We were matched just before we went to panel so that part was so quick.
My son settled very well, a few ups and down, he was incredibly easy and so loving. I heard of a therapy service that provides therapy work during those first few months of placement, which are key, I think this would be so helpful to help families bond and children to settle.
What has been the biggest surprise?
Suddenly realising this little person solely relied on me to look after him and fulfil his needs constantly, every day.
How was the assessment process?
easy, straight forward. Great social worker. Can’t complain
What’s your favourite thing to do together?
Everything really. I think laughing, he is great at it and so am I. Making silly faces, chatting, cooking together. Just being together. I will miss him a lot when he starts school.
What makes you and your family laugh?
The best thing about being a parent?
watching this little person grow, change, experience new things and giving my son a family that love him to the moon and back. We feel truly blessed.
The hardest thing about being a parent?
worrying if you are doing saying the right thing. Always weighing up whether certain behaviours or phases are adoption related or just simply ‘normal’
The piece of wisdom you would pass on to a child?
laugh, be happy, have fun, be wise, explore the world
What time do you go to bed?
11pm, too late for us! but bed time routine is taking several hours at the moment so our evening ends up starting much later and we need down time.