Below are a few books and pdfs that we have found helpful.
We have tried to integrate some adoption standards with some books on parenting in general that we think are adoption-friendly. Many of the books on this page can be read at any stage. Take your lead from what you fancy.
We are always open to suggestions, so please do get in touch if you have ideas for more reading...
Some useful pdfs:
Jessica Kingsley Publishing specialises in the book on adoption and fostering, amongst other topics. They have put together this booklet with information about books on adoption and fostering.
The ground breaking report Beyond the Adoption Order is also worth reading in its entirety. It concerns research about the world post placement. It was written by Julie Selwyn, Dinithi Wijedasa, and Sarah Meakings, University of Bristol, and published in April 2014.
Deborah Gray has written ten solid tips on her website Nurturing Attachments under the heading Learn - they are a good start in the first year of placement.
Purejoy Parenting have released a really helpful e-book by Leslie Potter, called '5 Parenting Beliefs Busted', which reinterprets traditional parenting beliefs, putting a new spin on the old and welcoming the new.
The ideal first book for prospective adopters. When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you.
All children need love, but for troubled children, a loving home is not always enough. Children who have experienced trauma need to be parented in a special way that helps them feel safe and secure, builds attachments and allows them to heal.
In this pioneering, practical book for parents, neuroscientist Daniel J. Siegel and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson explain the new science of how a child's brain is wired and how it matures.
This is a groundbreaking exploration of the brain mechanisms behind healthy caregiving by attachment specialist Dan Hughes and veteran clinical psychologist Jonathan Baylin.
Parenting a child who doesn't know how to be parented is the most difficult job in the world' This book provides friendly expert advice on how to respond to difficult behaviours and emotions for parents of children with developmental trauma.
Through words, pictures, photographs, certificates and other 'little treasures', a Life Story Book provides a detailed account of the child's early history and a chronology of their life.
Trauma resides in the body. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy—and a way to reclaim lives.
Witty and compassionate, this is a savvy adoptive parenting guide like no other, written by award-winning columnist and adoptive parent Sally Donovan.
Short and accessible, it explains what attachment means and how to recognise attachment disorder in children. It offers practical advice and strategies.
Finally, a parenting book which demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma and explains what the research means for the everyday life of parents of children who hurt.
with the apt subtitle How Social Networking is transforming the face of 21st century adoption, this books by Helen Oakwater of Fab Parents is a great overview of trauma in our children, as of the dangers of un-facilitated contact with birth families. The empathy for the birth family is particularly striking and useful.
Have you ever thought: ‘I can’t believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents?’
One of the most inviting titles of a parenting book. Ever.
Built around a golden rule of 'If it doesn't hurt property or people, it is allowed.' A refreshing look at many behaviours that are seen as wrong or bad.
Short and Sweet introduction to real life therapeutic parenting. Great cheat sheets in the back. The book is cheap too. Some of us have been handing them out like hot cakes to friends, family and school.
A classic on recognising and coping with Sensory Processing Disorder. There are further books by Carol Stock Kranowich: The Out-of-Sync Child has Fun, and The Out-of-Sync Child Grows up.
This book is more widely referenced by professionals both side of the pond than any other parenting book. There's a reason for that... It's blooming good.
'The trouble is, we don't take babyhood seriously enough', as explained in Sue Gerhardt's book, "Why Love Matters".
Short and sweet introduction with many practical suggestions.
Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. A sanity-saving guide.
A refreshing look a listening. To your kids. And to your self. It can be truly powerful and healing.
Based on years of experience working with children, including those withspecial needs, the authors structure their methods around the low arousal approach. With many creative suggestions and real-life examples, this book has the potential to change family life for the better.
Attachment security and affect regulation have long been buzzwords in therapy circles but rarely are they applied to basic parenting skills.
Grandparents and other relatives who become related by adoption can play an invaluable role in the life of the adopted child.
As the subtitles say 'How to stop yelling and start connecting.' Who doesn't want to know how? Dr Laura looks at kids ages 0-18. Calm and sound advice from this New Yorker.
The way we teach our pupils and the way we run our schools is under scrutiny right now. In the midst of all the change going on, we often end up losing sight of the educative tool that is the most important of all - ourselves!
Required reading for adoptive families, those considering adoption, or professionals in the field. This practical, informative book covers topics of vital importance to adoptive parents with sensitivity and insight.
Raising Happy, Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race-Conscious World
This text approaches attachment and developmental issues arising when the child is in your care. It offers practical, sensitive guidance through the dark areas of separation, loss and trauma in early childhood.